Who do you love the most? Mommy or Daddy? Please don’t ask the children like that anymore!

Otherwise I can’t say, I’m sorry. Guilt, confusion, and the obligation to answer such an impertinent question. That’s all I felt like writing these words, and my hair is already flowing.

You can read all the parenting books, you can talk to all the psychologists in the world. Everyone will say the same thing. This question does not arise. Never. That’s if you don’t want to start an inner struggle that the child doesn’t know how to handle.

Not on the other hand, but he is not prepared, he cannot decide and he has not been taught to respond to such a gossip.

When you ask the child this question, the analysis begins in his innocent mind: “I love my mother because she is warm, because she takes me in her arms, because she always prepares the best food for me, because she always tells me that she loves me. . ” But … “I also love my dad because he takes care of me, he protects me, because he reads me stories every night and takes me to kindergarten every day . ” Dilemma and pain in the soul. This is how the child who goes from ecstasy to agony feels free.

So … there are people who ask stupid questions.

He can’t choose. He has no choice! After all, is it like we’re being asked who we love the most? The older child or the younger child?

Dear parents, when a benevolent person wakes up to ask awkward questions, you answer instead of the child, “He loves them both equally as we love him just as much.”

If you have any suspicions that there are people asking such a question, always teach them to answer with “both”.

Of course, a child may prefer to talk more or less often with one of his parents (for example, girls can more easily identify with their mothers, which is simply based on sex), but this has nothing to do with love.

It is obvious that a teenager prefers to turn her mother into a confidante, but, I repeat, this does not mean that she loves the other one more or less.