How do you expect your child to sacrifice himself for you? Take care of yourself? Why would he do that?
I write these lines from the position of a child, but also from the position of a mother. Of course I would not let my parents suffer and of course I would be with them if they needed to, but I am also a mother. And from this position, it’s the last thing I want. Why would I want to be a burden to my child? Because I sacrificed my youth for him? Well, if I did, I’d think the poor kid was to blame.
If I do that, I do it because I choose to. The parent-child relationship is not an exchange. The parent-child relationship should be one of guidance. And the guide is, of course, the parent.
I don’t make or raise a child for myself
Instead, I do it and raise it so that it can be FREE. INDEPENDENT.
COURAGE . And on my word if that means turning it into my cane in my old age. As a mother, it would seem so selfish to pretend to be helped by my child, but from my parents’ child’s slippers, I see things differently. I know I couldn’t sit with my hands on my chest, I couldn’t be happy knowing they’re not well, I couldn’t put my head on the pillow knowing they needed me.
That’s how they raised me. Everything for me and so little for them.
