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Many adults with children, few really parents

Have you ever wondered why people without children judge those who have children so quickly and easily? They don’t have the right to do that, do they?
They don’t know what it means to be stressed, to let your breasts down, to not have enough time for your husband or for you. Those who don’t have children have no idea that you haven’t taken a quiet bath in an eternity, and you don’t even know what it’s like to sit on the Buddha in the morning without seeing your fingers under the door.

Now I am a mother, but 4 years ago I wrote the article “Don’t humiliate your children anymore!”. At the time, I said, “I’m not a mother yet, but I would have jumped on the neck of this mother who had threatened her child.”

The only feedback I received was: “You talk when you have children and you understand that it is not easy to be a mother. Until then, it’s easy for you to talk about books. ” I was talking about the child’s experience, not the books.

I haven’t changed my mind in the meantime. We don’t have the right to threaten our children, we don’t have the right to hit our children, we don’t have the right to yell at our children!
Please tell, whats the story of them big puppys …..
Please tell, whats the story of them big puppys …..
Now, tell me, please, why should it be different in the parent-child relationship? All the more so because that little piece of man has grown in you! All the more so because that little piece of man DIDN’T ASK to appear in your life, but YOU WANTED it!

Let me tell you why I judged certain parents before I became a mother…

Before we became parents, each of us was a child. And some things or situations that hurt us as children may bother us later.

Whether it’s our child or not. I judged because I empathized. With the child, not the parent. Nobody said it was easy to raise a child, but no one forces you to do it. Not now. Maybe in the past, when Ceausescu passed the law on “Decrees”, yes. But now that you have so much information and methods of contraception, what excuse do you have?

Now that I am a mother, it is even harder for me to accept that someone has the right to hit or threaten their child.

Please go to the maternity ward and show me a bad baby. When they are born, children come in their purest form.

Then, of course, some of them become louder, more aggressive, quieter, more anxious, more possessive, more polite. And no, that’s not their character, it’s the result of what we do as parents. There is no such thing as a bad child, just a parent who doesn’t know what to do. There is no depressed child, only an emotionally unavailable parent.

Many adults with children, few really parents

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