Do you know why I ask?
I’m asking this thing now because I thought it was normal.
My mother and I were annoyed and annoyed, and I had the impression that, to some extent, that was our goal in life. Basically, we’re like muscle fever. If the fever doesn’t show up, it means you didn’t work those muscles well.
Same with the child’s nerves! If she’s not annoyed, it means that parenting isn’t working, so to speak.
I lived by the rule!
I have lived by this rule until today, when another friend called me, a more novice mother, and, among other things, she told me a little overwhelmed with guilt that she was kissing her son until he got angry.
That she would pull him by the cheeks, she would tease him and he would get angry. And it annoys him for other reasons: that he is not allowed to lick his slippers, he does not let him eat the fruits directly from the stall and he insists on washing them, etc. And she’s sorry, and she feels guilty and the final idea is that she might be a bad or crazy or distorted mother, or, or, or.
And he regularly hit me in the eye …
I told him it wasn’t true, that we were all annoying our children. I explained my theory about muscle fever and I didn’t think I would be successful.
I even think I’ve strengthened her belief that she’s not a good mother.