The tragedy brought back the co-sleeping. Is it dangerous or not?
So, for a second child, I told myself that I would document myself and do things a little differently.
We chose the co-sleeping option, but the one in which the baby’s crib is open and glued to ours. That way I wouldn’t get out of bed and he was further away from me, so that he could rest a bit, and not think that I could accidentally suffocate him with my weight.
Is co-sleeping dangerous or not? What experts and studies say:
The surface on which he sleeps and what is left in bed next to the child matters: the firm sleeping surface, no older siblings, no plush, no pillows or blankets around the child’s head.
Care must be taken that the baby does not overheat. He does not sleep with a child on a sofa under any circumstances. Obviously, the baby should not sleep on his stomach until he returns alone – that is, up to 4-5 months.
Adina Păun: I think that co-sleeping can be just as safe or dangerous at any age of the child, in the sense that it is not the age of the child but the observance of the above conditions that influences the risk. SIDS is by definition a death of an infant without a determinable cause – including co-sleeping. Rather, it seems to be related to abnormalities in the child’s brain or vascular system that are impossible to determine before such a tragedy. SIDS affects children who sleep and do not sleep with their parents.
What we do know is that the sleeping position is clearly correlated with SIDS. The child who sleeps on his back, in a safe sleeping environment, has the same risks next to the parent or in his own bed.
Adina Păun: I think that the decision to sleep with the child, which is often reached in the middle of the night, after the “n” breastfeeding session, should be discussed as a couple after a good dose of coffee. First of all, because if the father also sleeps with the child, he must be aware of his presence in bed and must comply with the above criteria. Secondly, sleeping with the child is an element that influences the life of the couple – sexual and not only.
In some families it can bring more intimacy and creativity, in others frustration and resentment. An open negotiation of what it means for a certain family to sleep with the child, how long you intend to last and how you address other aspects of intimate life is a necessary step for things to go in the best conditions for all involved.