Ever since I got divorced, my ex-husband and I decided to take a vacation a year together
I’ve talked to him about the reasons why I stopped being a couple with his father, but that doesn’t mean we can’t get along.
Anyway, at least I didn’t go down without explaining myself first. The main idea is that I think that even though we have been divorced for years, we need to show the child that things can be done together. I would like him, if he is going to go through a situation like this – if he is divorcing and having children with the woman he broke up with – to be involved.
I had taken all the blame and it seemed like a capital sin.
I have a friend who works like a beggar to leave children (he has two boys) houses in the mountains, on the sea, to pay for their schools abroad, to buy them cars when they are 18 years old.
I felt a little irresponsible when I heard his plan. I don’t have such great plans. Well, my financial strength isn’t too great either, but then I promised myself to do everything I could, as best I could.
I’m not saying children wouldn’t need us to leave their fortunes…
In all the situations I went through, some extremely difficult and overwhelming, I allowed the child to see me as I am. I allowed him to see me in all the conditions I went through and I never hid my feelings from him. I let him see me weak and strong and I think the most important thing is that I let him see the transition: how I fall, how I get up and so on …
I let him see the ups and downs because he has to learn from them.
I would like him to remember, over the years, the vacations he went with me and yours, even though they were divorced, and how much fun he had.
And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. It says on the divorce papers that we are no longer husband and wife, not that we are no longer parents.