The second part is that I, after considering the bullying of the “girl”, started talking to her about what she could have done – tell them she was bothering him, tell them to stop, and so on. .
His response was nervous: “And what do I do after that? You don’t think I told them that? Do you think that all children do what you tell them you want to do? I tell them, yes, and what if? Sometimes, it seems to me that it would be best to beat some of them … ”So what do we do when we notice that this option is also possible? Can roles be changed from bullied to bully?
Which is easier for us as parents to identify as bullied or bullied?
What drives a child to be bullied?
The need for power and control. Where children have not learned that relationships between people presuppose equality in rights and obligations, where empathy, respect, understanding and unconditional acceptance have not developed enough, where violence and aggression have been allowed or even encouraged, an acute need may arise. power and control.
In these situations, domination and manipulation of others bring with them feelings of greatness, importance, and satisfaction that, in order to be maintained, will lead to a perpetuation of abusive behaviors.
What can we do as parents when we notice that our angel is the bully of the gang?
Unfortunately, bullying is common in our country, especially in schools, with Romania ranking 3rd out of the 42 countries in which the World Health Organization has investigated the extent of this phenomenon. In 2016, Save the Children Romania launched the first national study on the phenomenon of bullying in Romanian schools, which showed that 17% of 11-year-olds admitted to assaulting other students at least three times in the previous month, the percentage of those 13 and 15 years, respectively, being 23%.
Or, in more detail, 3 out of 10 children are excluded from the peer group, 3 out of 10 children are threatened with being beaten or hit by colleagues, and 1 in 4 children has been humiliated in front of colleagues. Following these reports in 2020, a series of rules were developed to prevent and combat bullying in educational settings. However, the phenomenon is still present in schools, including during online schooling.