Unfortunately, not all romantic relationships are made to last. People stop loving each other, lack of trust or infidelity sever the bonds between two partners. Or, one partner is not ready to engage as meaningfully as the other. But, if there is one love that is eternal, it is that of a mother for her child.
Most of the time, when a breakup occurs between two people, they find common ground to separate in a civil manner, without much outbursts. Yet sometimes breakups can be particularly hideous. There can be arguments, disrespect and verbal abuse. Moreover, some partners may even have difficulty accepting the separation.
They don’t want to move on and become insufferable exes. But, it all takes a different turn when a child is involved. The separation of a couple who have a child can be very complicated. Not only, the two partners must explain to their offspring why they are no longer going to live together. But, they also have to find a way to part ways amicably.
The breakup should not have negative effects on the child because it is not the cause of his parents’ disenchantment. He is not guilty of the acts and words of these. So her mental health and her future must be a priority for parents, even in these difficult times.
Finding your place in the life of a single mother
Once the post-breakup healing period is over, parents set off again in search of true love. And, as a single mom, it can be very difficult to find a man who meets all of her expectations and who is also going to be a role model for her child.
A single mother devotes all of her free time to her child. This is his priority. So dating men and finding someone who will come to terms with their situation can be challenging. She cannot afford to accept just anyone into her life. She does not want her child to relive the pain of separation. And, she also does not have the desire to scroll the men and therefore accumulate disappointments.
A single mother who offers her heart again does so with care. She doesn’t rush. She weighs the pros and cons. And, she chooses a man who seems to fit all the criteria she has set for herself. So if you are not serious about your intentions, then don’t play with his heart and waste his time.
Your casual attitude will not have repercussions for the mother but also for the child. So you need to think carefully about your decision and you need to be aware of what to expect!
So, if you are interested in a single mom, there are five things you should know.
1. A single mother always puts her child first.
All the decisions a single mother makes are based on the best interests of her child. If he’s sick, she’ll cancel your date. If he has to attend an important event, she will focus all of her attention on him. She does not impose her child on others so that she can do what she wants. So, once your relationship gets serious, you need to be ready to go on family outings and watch silly cartoons. If you have no interest in the child, the single mother will have none for you!
2. You will meet the child when the mother is ready and not before!
Do not expect to meet your child from the very first date. Even if everything is going well between you, a single mom will wait and see if the relationship has a future before introducing her little one to you. You will therefore not be able to pass unexpectedly in the evening or impose your presence during a TV evening between mother and child. She is the one who has to make the decision and say that the time has come for you to meet. And, if you try to force it, you are going to find yourself facing a wall that you will never be able to cross.
3. A single mom doesn’t have time for games.
Her child expects her to offer him happiness and stability on a silver platter. So if you’re not looking for something serious then go your way. If you are used to lying, cheating, or spending your evenings in nightclubs, you have no chance of seducing a single mom. Just look for someone who enjoys this lifestyle. She needs a real man who is ambitious and has serious goals because, sooner or later, he will be part of her child’s life and she wants a good role model by his side.
4. She is not looking for a surrogate father.
The child has a father, more or less present in his life depending on the case. But, take our word for it: a single mom isn’t looking to replace her ex. She has been on her own and has been looking after her child on her own for quite some time so she is not afraid to continue to do so. She doesn’t wait for a man to interfere in her life and save her from the burden of the single parent. Raising her child is a privilege for her and she doesn’t want a man to play daddy.
5. Being a single mother is the greatest strength.
After her break-up, she became independent and learned to do everything without the help of a man. She is strong and she knows perfectly how to get out of all the difficult situations that life imposes on her. In the eyes of her child, she is a superheroine! A single mom knows how to love passionately, deeply, and unconditionally. But she does not offer this love to everyone: it must be deserved.
Seducing a single mother is not easy. In her head, she is already trying to imagine your place in her family. How are you going to behave with her child? are you going to accept to be in second position? She analyzes everything before giving you the green light.
But, once you have secured the right to meet her child, it means that she is ready to engage with you more seriously as long as you are a good role model for her child and a loyal and honest companion.