The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Children are paradise butterflies” (Muslim). A believer must understand that raising children is associated with certain obligations to him and the Lord of the worlds. A child is an amanat, what is given to us by Allah Almighty for safe keeping.
Do we know how to behave with children so as not to hurt their rights and earn the pleasure of Allah?
Many modern parents are familiar with a huge number of books on effective parenting, but the most important and most obvious things, unfortunately, are often overlooked. What is it about? Of course, about attention to children. The qualitative attention we are talking about implies giving the child special time, being interested in the events of his life, a soft and consistent introduction to life, support and consolation in difficult periods for the child.
Allah Almighty said: “Oh, believers! Protect yourself and your families from Fire, which will fuel people and stones. It [Hell] is ruled by angels, cruel and harsh. They do not disobey the commands of Allah and do [only] what they are ordered to ”(at-Tahrim, 6). Ali ibn Abu Talib (r.a.) regarding this verse said : “Train yourself and your families to do good, and educate your household” (Ibn Abi ad-Dunya in “al-Iyal”). As one poet said: “An orphan is not the one whose parents passed away, leaving him weak. An orphan is one who has a mother who left him and a busy father. “
The development of visual-active thinking in children from 1 to 3 years old, visual-figurative – from 4 to 7 years old and verbal-logical – from later years are an indicator that children need to be shown, told, explained. However, the child needs not only the right direction, as it happens in childhood, adolescence, adolescence, but also support and consolation in the later years of his life. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was interested in the state of affairs of his daughters, even when they were married. But, unfortunately, some adults, even being next to their children in the same space, sit in different corners, not hearing or seeing each other. Whatever you do, give quality attention to your children. Take a break from your worries when they ask you for something, learn to listen and hear their needs, convey to them your love, your knowledge, your attitude to life.