The religion of Islam provides guidance in every area of human life, including parenting. Children are the greatest blessing of Allah Almighty, along with this a great responsibility, amanat, for which we will be asked before Almighty. What rules for interacting with children should be followed in order to treat this amanat with dignity? The main precepts from the Qur’an and Sunnah regarding how children should be treated:
1. We love them unconditionally.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), seating his grandson Hasan (RA) on his shoulders, said: “O Allah, I love him (Hasan), love him too” (Bukhari). One of the hadiths says: “People went out with the Prophet (peace be upon him) and saw that Hussein was playing in the street. The Prophet (peace be upon him) came forward and stretched out his arms, and Hussein began to run in different directions. The Prophet made him laugh until he caught him, then he put one hand under his chin and the other on his head, kissed him and said, “Hussein is part of me and I am part of him. May Allah love those who love Hussein ”(Ibn Majah).
2. We treat them with mercy.
The hadith says: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn Ali, while al-Aqra ibn Habis at-Tamimi was sitting next to him. Al-Aqrah said: “I have 10 children and I have never kissed any of them.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) looked at him and said: “He who is not merciful to others cannot count on mercy towards himself” (Bukhari).
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “He who does not show mercy towards children and respect towards adults is not one of us” (Tirmidhi).
3. We direct them.
Lukman bequeathed to his son: “Oh, my son! Do not associate partners with Allah, for polytheism is a great injustice ” (31:13).
“Oh, my son! Perform namaz, command to do what is approved, forbid reprehensible and patiently bear everything that befalls you ” (31:17).
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Tell your children to perform namaz from the age of seven, and punish them for non-fulfilment from the age of ten, and put them to bed separately (from the age of 10)” (Abu Dawood).
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also said: “The best gift of a father to his child is knowledge and education” (Tirmidhi).
4. We play with them.
It is reported that Mahmud ibn ar-Rabi (r.a.) said: “I remembered that once, when I was five years old, the Prophet (peace be upon him) sprinkled water in my face, taking it from a bucket with his mouth” (Bukhari) …
Once someone saw the Prophet (peace be upon him) carrying Hasan on his shoulders and said: “Hasan, what a horse you have!” To which the Prophet (peace be upon him) smiled and replied: “Look what a rider he has!”
5. Show parity in relation to them.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Anyone who calls a child, promising to give him something and does not give, is a liar” (Ahmad).
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) addressed children with love, respect and patience.
May Allah allow us to follow his blessed example in dealing with our own children.