How should I raise my child? Dedicated parents ask themselves this question again and again at the birth of a child and also with every sibling. Here you get an overview of possible parenting styles and the effects they can have.
The birth of a child is a big task for parents, usually for a lifetime, because then at the latest mother and father reflect on their own childhood, exchange memories and often find out what they consider “good” or “bad” in their upbringing felt afterwards their own parents and the environment. There is often talk of so-called “strict upbringing” or, in contrast, the somewhat casual upbringing, often also referred to as “anti-authoritarian”.
But what situations and circumstances are these opinions based on? Were there approaches of different parenting styles that were mixed up with each other, or was only raised according to one pattern? Who was responsible for it and how can we best do it?
For many parents, the question arises early on when the child’s upbringing should actually begin and which methods are most suitable for this. The following guide is intended to provide an overview.
What is education?
The term “education” is defined similarly in many works.
The True Dictionary of Foreign Words states:
“Education is the planned and targeted impact on young people in order to shape them mentally, morally and physically with all their abilities and powers and to train them to be responsible and strong personalities.” Source: Wahrig, Fremdwörterbuch 2009
It should be noted that education is not only carried out by parents, but also by other educational institutions. These include day care centers, schools, other social institutions of various agencies (church parishes, sports clubs and much more), but relatives and family friends also shape a child through various activities and influences.
Nevertheless, there is no connection between “good” and “correct” upbringing and their “success” at this point. Education and its goals are always to be regarded as individual, based on the experience, knowledge and skills of the respective educator and educator.
What is parenting style?
Research on parenting styles is considered a sub-area of socialization research. Parenting styles include characteristic bundles of basic behavioral patterns and attitudes that the parent can identify during the upbringing. For each and every single parent, these attitudes are rated as quite stable.
In this way, different behavioral patterns can be recognized within the parenting styles. The upbringing can be demanding or undemanding, consequent or yielding, skeptical or optimistic, aggressive or friendly, self-centered or emphatic as well as dismissive or responsive and conveys basic educational attitudes. Behind it, for example, is an authoritarian, pampering, authoritative, permissive or neglectful upbringing.
Parenting styles should also be the main topic that this guide deals with.
What is an educational concept?
However, parenting styles are to be clearly differentiated from parenting concepts. Educational concepts are also referred to as educational philosophies and contain intentional elements such as pedagogical guidelines and ideals as well as norms and goals. Among other things, education in the Christian, Marxist or anti-authoritarian sense is one of the educational concepts.
“Relationship related to education”
Depending on the relationship between parent and child and the personality structure they have, the parenting style and its impact are influenced accordingly. The relationship that a child has to a person or group of people largely determines the effects of their child-raising behavior on the child. On the other hand, the upbringing behavior of the educating person is in turn influenced by the network of relationships in which they find themselves. The lifestyle and the experiences made by the parents play a key role in this. The parenting style experienced in the family of origin has been shown to have an impact on one’s own parenting style later on.
In addition to being a role model for your own family members and experience in daycare and school with specific educational goals, the family’s social class, the individual social environment, the family constellation and the overall social and cultural situation in which the child being raised is playing an important role in the Application and impact of the parenting style.